An Attitude of Gratitude

There comes a time in our lives when we are forced to evaluate our lives, our friendships and our relationships.

It's often the people that are closest to you who are not there in your time of need. Why is it that we have visions of how our lives are suppose to be and play out but our visions and our realities are often very different.

 Yes it's a part of life that things do not often play out the way we expected, the friends we thought were for a life time often turns out to be seasonal and when we get to a certain point in our lives, very often even the most profound times of our lives, people who we thought would be there, people with whom we share history, people with whom we share a past are not a part of our future.

I do believe that God changes disappointments into appointment. Regardless of whether we believe it or not, see it or not, appreciate it or not, God always steps in. The people that we think are best for us are the very poison that keeps us from reaching our promise land.  Life and situations forces us to be mature and see things for what they really are.

People will come in and leave our lives at some point or another. I have learnt to get with God's program, to bid people farewell when their part in my story is over, however I am still human, It still shocks me when I place people on pedestals and they disappointment, it hurts me when "that friend' does not share in my happiness, but like eagles wings I rise above it. In fact I look around me and it makes me appreciate those who are still around even more. It makes me welcome those that enter my live and give them as much love as I can.

I still question life, people, situations,  Why is it that someone whom you know less seem more appealing to open up to? Why is it that the friend whom you have known forever only shares a portion of your life and not all of it? Why do you feel like you will be judged if you open up to those closest to you? Why is the first person that crosses your mind in times of need not that dear friend or loved one? Why does a stranger get to see you cry and wipe away your tears?

Maybe it's just me, Maybe I need to be a better friend. I'm sure that other people don't share the same experiences as me. Maybe you have never been disappointed by a friend or loved one. You have probably been in the same situation at some point in your life, if not its still coming.

Human beings are far from perfect, we are in perfect human beings. The key to our happiness is to not take offence, let it out, forgive and move on with your life. Don't waste time trying to make that friend love you, appreciate you, support you. The truth is that it is impossible to please everyone and if you spend your whole life constantly seeking approval then one day you will wake up and realise that your life was never about you but about others and at the end of it all you still have not achieved anything.

So the moral of the story is forgive quickly, love with all your heart, live and enjoy every moment and recognize and accept when the story as ended so that a new story can begin. We all have a promise land, we are all on a journey to a destination better known to God and as a friend of mine once said  "YOU CAN NOT TAKE EVERYONE WITH YOU TO YOUR PROMISE LAND, SOME PEOPLE HAVE TO STAY BEHIND"

So it is important to choose carefully who gets to walk with you to reach your promise land and more importantly who goes into the promise land with you. If you are not careful and do not leave some people behind, you will NEVER reach your promise land.

So my new philosophy is that "WISDOM IS KNOWING WHO TO TAKE WITH AND WHO TO LEAVE BEHIND" so choose carefully. Not everyone will get you and not everyone is meant to get you. Don't spend time crying over spilt milk, if its spilt then let it be.

Blessings

Becoming a Praying woman too.

Last year, I wrote a piece about the power of a praying man. I was encouraged and felt the need to share the power of a praying man because I had seen the power and effect of a praying man in my own life.

I felt a responsibility to share the importance of men being prayerful and covering their families and protecting their families and loved ones from the forces of this world. I had seen the damages and effects that are caused by men who are not prayerful, who do not protect their families and loved ones with prayer and I am convinced that a lot of challenges that people face in their lives, families relationships could have been easier with prayer.

Not that people don't know about prayer but I feel that too often we do not realise the true importance, significance and meaning of being prayerful. May things that happen in our lives and even in families such as families been torn apart, divorces, affairs etc all could have probably been prevented had the MAN and WOMAN been prayerful and covering each other in prayer.

On the flip side, the man does not carry the responsibility alone. There is power in a praying woman too. We as women should be the kind of people that make hell tremble, we should cause earthquakes and volcanoes in hell when we pray and seek God. As much as many things could be prevented in homes and families if men covered their families in prayer, a lot of things could also be prevented if Women covered their men in prayer.

Being a praying woman does not only apply to husband and wife relationships but also to daughters, sons, sisters, brother, cousins and all sorts of relationships. Very often we think that things have to go wrong before we are on our knees praying, situations bring us to our knees and that should not be the only times that we are on our knees. If we wait for problems to arise before we stand in prayer, it might very well be too late. Therefore let us pray and praise God in Good times, bad times, difficult times, at all times.

I am dedicating this year to living on my knees, that's my vision for the year. Not only to cover my soon to be hubby in prayer but all my loved ones in general and the country and live in and the world at large.

They say behind every great man their lies a great and prayerful woman. As a MAN fights off the burdens & pressures of life to protect his family, his woman who is anchored in her FAITH supports him in prayer and is not facing him as not to judge him as he strains to push through.

As we start this promising new year, my hearts desire is that God will give us the spirit to push(pray until something happens). That in every difficulty we shall be victorious, in every struggle that God shall speak to us, teach us and show us the way to the promise land that he as prepared for each and every single one of us, ladies and men.

God Bless us all.


Damilola