Girlfriends-FACT OR FICTION

GIRLFRIENDS:

I'm sure that all of us at some point or another have watched the sitcom "Girlfriends"....But how many of us actually have that kind of friendships with our "GIRLFRIENDS" or better yet how many of us are that kind of friend?

In my High School days I had a lot of friends, we called ourselves the "CRAZY 8 plus 1(lol)".........       Years later in my varsity days I found myself in the same kind of "click". In fact 3 of us were from "CRAZY 8". Although we were more mature now and didn't have any official "NAME", we were still kind of a "click". I always believed it was about the quantity of friends. Being young and naive, it was more important for me to surround myself with people all the time. A lot of us struggle to be by ourselves when we are younger and some never really grow out of it even as they grow older, I was one of those people. I identified myself by the amount of friends I had, the company I kept, the places I went.

Growing up and leaving varsity I quickly became to realise that quality is far more important than quantity. Rather have 1 good friend than have 10 bad friends. My friendships began to have a "new face" as I changed. It started becoming about the friends who I could trust, friends who were there through good and bad, QUALITY rather than QUANTITY.

As my life changed and as I entered into a different phases in my life, friends fell away. Some friends were happy for me and others were not. Some friends didn't understand that phase in my life and I didn't want to explain it. Friends gossipped but I was happy so I didn't care. One day it dawned on me that I didn't have as many friends as I actually thought I had. I realised that I was living in an "imperfect world" and that most friends are actually "friendnemies".  I realised that the friendships I had did not necessarily have to last forever and that that was okay. I realised that certain people only came into my life during a certain phase of my life and that when that scene is over, it is okay for them to walk out of my life in order for me to progress.

Of course no one is perfect, there is no such thing as a perfect friend and I am far from perfect but although "perfection" doesn't exist I wanted standards for my friendships. I wanted to be the kind of friend that I was wanted to have.  I found myself only wanting to spend my time with people who wanted to spend their time with me. It wanted my friendships to be reciprocal.. No more pretences, I realised that life is way too short  for that.

I now know who my true friends are and I'm grateful for the few friends that God as put in my life. I am happier with few friends than I was with more friends. I have left all of the back stabbing, gossipping, envy and jealousy behind and I am looking forward to a future with quality friends.